In previous posts (and a few other posts on other blogs) we (us bloggers, collectively) have discussed what to talk about on first dates or the early stages of one’s dating. The topic is relatively amusing since real life social interaction isn’t something that can be choreographed. I mean it can be, but that is mechanical and austere. Sadly, I've actually had those robotic type of interaction on a few occasions. It’s not something I hope for, yet it can be a common eventuality that is an integral part of dating, at least for those us who carry the derogatory "experienced dater" moniker. (So do you prefer we follow the FISHES or JIFSES protocol? ;-) )
Likewise, some of the best dates I have had involved conversation pieces that were way out of left field and totally random, regardless of whether they were on a first date or otherwise. Of course there will always be those odd conversation pieces like "is a white shirt and black pants important in a shidduch;" but those are just part of the process. Better to try and fail… Okay, fine; that wasn’t an actual conversation piece, but it was something someone Goolged and landed on my site for some odd reason… ;-) Come to think of it, I really should ask that question on date; you know... just for the fun of it!
After much research (i.e. asking a few of my dating and married friends) the general consensus was: talk about anything and everything. Obviously, this means topics within reason. Boys shouldn’t try to discuss things which are uniquely male discussions, such as the exhilaration of getting drunk on purim, and girls should avoid discussing topics which are uniquely female such as their shoe shopping mishaps and what not. Unless of course the counterparty in question shows genuine interested in said subject, then that’s fine, well at least from a conversational standpoint. Seemingly, the best topics for conversation are things which are relevant to both parties and are interesting on some level. I wish I could provide you with a list of concrete ideas, but this is something that is totally relative and completely subjective. Maybe thats a topic for a different post... but I digress….
Anyway, the intended point of this thread is slightly different in nature than that of first date topics or that little diatribe above. I am curious what you (the collective readership) think people ought to talk about in that obscure middle dating stage. You know, were the daters in question are slowly getting to know the other person slightly more. Furthermore, at that point the couple is beginning to have more meaningful conversations, but not in serious a manner yet which further limits potential topics. (i.e. somewhere in the 3rd and 6th date area). So what do you say?
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